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Re: My cousin
« Reply #14 on: August 08, 2016, 08:21:19 PM »
How horrible....I am so sorry for you & your entire family.....Prayers go out to you....
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #15 on: August 08, 2016, 10:10:08 PM »
Thank you all for your empathy and condolences on this. Something this sudden with my cousin only 37 years old, has been a horrible thing to encounter. I myself normally never feel any emotion, however today was one of those days where I was crying not only over the loss, but in recognition of the heartache and pain that his immediate family are dealing with. My cousin was trying to turn his life around, but was also trying to shake addiction to mind/mood altering substances. As his sister pointed out, he is now out of pain and free of the horror of addiction. However he was a wonderful guy and still had much to contribute in life. He will be missed.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #16 on: August 08, 2016, 10:28:23 PM »
We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers

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« Reply #17 on: August 09, 2016, 06:11:42 AM »
Sorry for your tragic loss
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #18 on: August 09, 2016, 07:45:24 AM »
So sorry for your loss.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #19 on: May 01, 2017, 10:16:26 AM »
I added to this here due to another cousin of mine Eddie Rehm that took his life also to suicide in January.  This second issue rocked me back on my heels and I had to take some time off to deal with the suddenness and the illogic of these losses.  Personally at this point, I internally have been able to resolve the illogic, but it still hurts.  I would ask though that for those of you who do pray, that you pray for the immediate families of my kin.  They are still heart broken over this.  There are no words that one can use to assuage the grief experienced in this.

Please forgive the tone if it sounds like it is cold and emotionless.  I have Autism, and due to the way my brain is wired, losses such as this have to be processed through using logic due to the way my brain is actually wired.  I do sense and feel emotion, but that is highly controlled due to the on/off/if/then/yes/no nature of how I see and perceive life and to protect myself and others around me.  Also words and especially the choices of words when I have to convey personal losses such as this may not entirely convey the emotion that may be there.  I personally do not use emotional subtext/undertone in my word choices.  This is typical of how one with Autism will communicate.  Given all of this, I felt this deeply and had to come to terms with this.

I added to the current thread here because for me the two losses are linked together.  I am currently on the other side of this but losses of loved ones always leave a hole in my life that cannot be replaced because each person is unique.  Remember and cherish the good times and blessings.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #20 on: May 01, 2017, 10:50:44 AM »
So sorry to hear this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #21 on: May 01, 2017, 12:18:51 PM »
Truely sorry for the families loss.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #22 on: May 01, 2017, 01:36:04 PM »
We will indeed think of you & your family in our prayers.
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Re: My cousin
« Reply #23 on: May 02, 2017, 10:59:40 AM »
Only time can heal. We'll pray that the Lord speeds up the time it takes for the pain of grief to turn into the warmth of fond memories.

As for your tone, don't worry about it as we all grieve in our own way. There is no right or wrong, it is whatever you feel and how you are able to cope and deal with it.

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« Reply #24 on: May 04, 2017, 07:31:09 PM »
I have something to add here.  My father is one of 16 children.  In the past 2 days, we lost one of the spouses of my dad's sister Margy, and one of his own sisters Grace.  Neither was unanticipated, but still having 2 beloved going in 24 hours is not fun.

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Re: My cousin
« Reply #25 on: May 04, 2017, 09:48:00 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss.  I had an Uncle commit suicide years ago and it was a shock to everyone.  I don't think anyone saw it coming.  I will keep your family in my thoughts as they go through this difficult time.

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Re: My cousin
« Reply #26 on: May 06, 2017, 06:45:28 PM »
That is a lot of stuff to process through for anyone, especially having losses so close together.  Praying that your whole family will be surrounded by support and encouragement. 
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