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Title: My cousin
Post by: stalag on August 08, 2016, 06:39:20 AM
I woke up this morning to find out that my cousin Marc committed suicide this past weekend.  My words cannot convey the sense of loss and sorrow over this.

Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: teesquare on August 08, 2016, 07:16:41 AM
I wish there were words that could convey the level of sympathy I feel for you at hearing of this. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
T
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: sliding_billy on August 08, 2016, 07:38:36 AM
That is horrible.  P Lease know that our thoughts are with family and friends.
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: Jaxon on August 08, 2016, 07:47:02 AM
We are so sorry for this tragic loss. 

May God give you grace to help you through this difficult time.
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Post by: muebe on August 08, 2016, 08:10:27 AM
So sorry to hear this....
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Post by: TMB on August 08, 2016, 08:48:01 AM
I know how painful this is, I had an uncle that did the same thing a year after my father passed away.

It leaves a lot of questions and very few answers, just keep in mind there is a GREATER power and He is in charge 

Prayers to you and your family  my friend
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Post by: smokeasaurus on August 08, 2016, 09:52:37 AM
We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers..............
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Post by: TentHunteR on August 08, 2016, 09:55:48 AM
I know I already told you this when we talked on the phone this morning, but my heart grieves with you, and you are in my prayers!
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Post by: tomcrete1 on August 08, 2016, 11:56:55 AM
Sorry to hear of your tragic loss.  We will keep you and your family in our prayers
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: stalag on August 08, 2016, 01:08:33 PM
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I found out this morning of the untimely death of one of my first cousins on my fathers side of my family. Out of respect I will let my cousins immediate family work through and prepare the announcement to the rest of the family. There are no words a human can say to assuage the grief, loss, and sorrow at this event and I have no words to express these elements for what I feel at this time. I will though express openly I love my family, and for those closest in relationship to the one who just passed, I pray that God keep you and give you comfort in these hours.
Title: My cousin
Post by: rwalters on August 08, 2016, 01:47:49 PM
Cannot imagine the shock and pain of hearing this kind of news re: a family member/close friend. I am sorry. Praying for you and the family.
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Post by: Roget on August 08, 2016, 02:18:00 PM
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
My prayers will be for you & your family.
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Post by: TwoPockets on August 08, 2016, 02:44:03 PM
So sorry for your loss. This is the worst kind of tragedy. Thoughts and prayers for all the family.
Title: My cousin
Post by: tailfeathers on August 08, 2016, 03:03:08 PM
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Tough row to hoe that's for sure.


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Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: HighOnSmoke on August 08, 2016, 08:13:52 PM
My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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Post by: Tailgating is my game on August 08, 2016, 08:21:19 PM
How horrible....I am so sorry for you & your entire family.....Prayers go out to you....
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: stalag on August 08, 2016, 10:10:08 PM
Thank you all for your empathy and condolences on this. Something this sudden with my cousin only 37 years old, has been a horrible thing to encounter. I myself normally never feel any emotion, however today was one of those days where I was crying not only over the loss, but in recognition of the heartache and pain that his immediate family are dealing with. My cousin was trying to turn his life around, but was also trying to shake addiction to mind/mood altering substances. As his sister pointed out, he is now out of pain and free of the horror of addiction. However he was a wonderful guy and still had much to contribute in life. He will be missed.
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: Saber 4 on August 08, 2016, 10:28:23 PM
We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: akruckus on August 09, 2016, 06:11:42 AM
Sorry for your tragic loss
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Post by: Scallywag on August 09, 2016, 07:45:24 AM
So sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: stalag on May 01, 2017, 10:16:26 AM
I added to this here due to another cousin of mine Eddie Rehm that took his life also to suicide in January.  This second issue rocked me back on my heels and I had to take some time off to deal with the suddenness and the illogic of these losses.  Personally at this point, I internally have been able to resolve the illogic, but it still hurts.  I would ask though that for those of you who do pray, that you pray for the immediate families of my kin.  They are still heart broken over this.  There are no words that one can use to assuage the grief experienced in this.

Please forgive the tone if it sounds like it is cold and emotionless.  I have Autism, and due to the way my brain is wired, losses such as this have to be processed through using logic due to the way my brain is actually wired.  I do sense and feel emotion, but that is highly controlled due to the on/off/if/then/yes/no nature of how I see and perceive life and to protect myself and others around me.  Also words and especially the choices of words when I have to convey personal losses such as this may not entirely convey the emotion that may be there.  I personally do not use emotional subtext/undertone in my word choices.  This is typical of how one with Autism will communicate.  Given all of this, I felt this deeply and had to come to terms with this.

I added to the current thread here because for me the two losses are linked together.  I am currently on the other side of this but losses of loved ones always leave a hole in my life that cannot be replaced because each person is unique.  Remember and cherish the good times and blessings.
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: Jaxon on May 01, 2017, 10:50:44 AM
So sorry to hear this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by: sparky on May 01, 2017, 12:18:51 PM
Truely sorry for the families loss.
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Post by: Roget on May 01, 2017, 01:36:04 PM
We will indeed think of you & your family in our prayers.
We all need support in this life & sometimes worldly support just isn't enough.
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Post by: GusRobin on May 02, 2017, 10:59:40 AM
Only time can heal. We'll pray that the Lord speeds up the time it takes for the pain of grief to turn into the warmth of fond memories.

As for your tone, don't worry about it as we all grieve in our own way. There is no right or wrong, it is whatever you feel and how you are able to cope and deal with it.

Best wishes and prayers to all your family.

Title: Deaths in my family
Post by: stalag on May 04, 2017, 07:31:09 PM
I have something to add here.  My father is one of 16 children.  In the past 2 days, we lost one of the spouses of my dad's sister Margy, and one of his own sisters Grace.  Neither was unanticipated, but still having 2 beloved going in 24 hours is not fun.

Note the change.
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: 70monte on May 04, 2017, 09:48:00 PM
I'm sorry for your loss.  I had an Uncle commit suicide years ago and it was a shock to everyone.  I don't think anyone saw it coming.  I will keep your family in my thoughts as they go through this difficult time.

Wayne
Title: Re: My cousin
Post by: SmokinKat on May 06, 2017, 06:45:28 PM
That is a lot of stuff to process through for anyone, especially having losses so close together.  Praying that your whole family will be surrounded by support and encouragement.