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Title: Sad News
Post by: RG on April 14, 2019, 04:43:10 PM
I just got back from going to see my Dad.  I had to get hospice out to his place and he is on borrowed time. I will be spending time driving back and forth from Georgia to South Carolina until things run their course. I know that none of you know me or my Dad but if could send up a prayer or thought, I would appreciate it. Thank you all.
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Post by: Roget on April 14, 2019, 05:01:07 PM
You got it RG. Stay strong brother.
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Post by: GusRobin on April 14, 2019, 06:14:12 PM
thoughts and prayers are with you and yours
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Post by: HighOnSmoke on April 14, 2019, 06:26:23 PM
Thoughts and prayers sent RG!
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Post by: Pappymn on April 14, 2019, 07:55:00 PM
You got it RG


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Post by: teesquare on April 14, 2019, 08:19:12 PM
Absolutely RG.....Peace Strength and Wisdom be with you.
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Post by: Jaxon on April 14, 2019, 08:51:31 PM
Praying for an extra measure of grace on your behalf. 
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Post by: CDN Smoker on April 14, 2019, 09:57:55 PM
Prayers sent
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Post by: ACW3 on April 15, 2019, 09:06:41 AM
Prayers sent to you and your family.

Art
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Post by: Tailgating is my game on April 15, 2019, 09:17:52 AM
God bless you & your Dad RG. I hope you get a miracle from God.
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Post by: TMB on April 15, 2019, 09:57:07 AM
I know what your going through RG, Kimmie's dad went through the the same thing.   Only blessing for Kimmie was we live two doors down from where he was the entire time so she spent days with him and at a time and that was really good for her.   

We'll keep you guys in our prayers for sure, just know WHO is in charge and HE knows best.   

Peace to you and you family
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Post by: smokeasaurus on April 15, 2019, 10:13:05 AM
I lost both of my parents 74 days apart back in 2014 and I am still not over that.

Wendy and I are sending you prayers and wishes.

Wendy used to be a hospice nurse.

Hospice nurses are like living angels.

Your Dad will feel no more pain.
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Post by: Hub on April 15, 2019, 10:52:28 AM
Praying for strength and love inside your family.

Hub
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Post by: Big Dawg on April 15, 2019, 06:07:41 PM
Prayers being sent.  I lost my dad back in August.  Even though he was there for less than a full day, Hospice did a great job for my dad and for making my family comfortable in that troubling time.





BD
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Post by: RAD on April 15, 2019, 06:44:07 PM
Sorry to hear. Prayers and thoughts sent.
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Post by: IR2dum on April 15, 2019, 07:44:07 PM
RG, I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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Post by: sparky on April 15, 2019, 08:22:57 PM
Prayers sent from the west coast my friend.
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Post by: DWard51 on April 16, 2019, 06:26:37 PM
Prayers being sent from just round the corner in GA.  I lost both my parents 6 months apart in 2007/2008.  It is a very tough thing to deal with, but sadly we all grow older and time catches up with us (some just too soon).
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Post by: RG on April 16, 2019, 08:28:41 PM
Thank you all for the prayers and thoughts, I greatly appreciate it. I have a long road to travel yet, getting financial things sorted out, being executor for his will and having power of attorney is a daunting task. Dealing with the inevitable isn't a joy either but it's something he has entrusted me with. I'll get through it but it like him, I will have good days and bad days throughout, until it's over.
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Post by: TentHunteR on April 16, 2019, 09:16:23 PM
Absolutely, Brother!  Prayers being sent!
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Post by: sliding_billy on April 17, 2019, 03:03:19 AM
Praying for you and your family, RG.
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Post by: DWard51 on April 17, 2019, 03:36:51 PM
Sending PM on GA wills.
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Post by: RG on April 17, 2019, 06:48:56 PM
This is why I enjoy BBQ folks, always the warmest people you'll find. Again, thank you all.
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Post by: Susie-Que on April 17, 2019, 10:50:25 PM
Sending support from afar.
I lost my Dad almost 2 years ago, but it feels like yesterday. 
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Post by: 70monte on April 18, 2019, 12:10:37 PM
I'm sorry to hear that.  My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by: Pac Man on April 18, 2019, 02:14:40 PM
You have my prayers.
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Post by: UWFSAE on April 22, 2019, 10:16:26 AM
My thoughts are with you and your family ...
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Post by: Lemonhead78 on April 22, 2019, 12:09:35 PM
Prayers from my family to yours . Keep it together rg
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Post by: RG on April 22, 2019, 06:37:37 PM
Thanks to you all. The power of prayer is real and greatly appreciated. I've been handling some of his business in one way or another pretty much daily. It's a tedious process but with the prayers you've sent,  God is giving me strength to do what I am asked to do.
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Post by: RG on April 27, 2019, 09:33:10 AM
My Dad passed away early this morning. He is in a better place, reunited with my Mother I hope. Thanks again to you all for your well wishes.
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Post by: rwalters on April 27, 2019, 09:53:24 AM
Very sorry to hear this! Praying for you and yours.
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Post by: sparky on April 27, 2019, 11:20:10 AM
I'm sorry about this. 
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Post by: HighOnSmoke on April 27, 2019, 11:59:55 AM
Sorry to hear this Jason. Prayers to you and your family.
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Post by: sliding_billy on April 27, 2019, 02:03:22 PM
Continues prayers for you and your family after the loss.
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Post by: smokeasaurus on April 27, 2019, 03:24:17 PM
We are so sorry to hear about your loss.

Your father is in a better place.

Now your parents can watch as your journey continues until you are all reunited again.

I lost both my parents within a short time period back in 2014 and I still have not recovered.

Stay strong brother.
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Post by: DWard51 on April 27, 2019, 04:53:36 PM
So sorry to hear this.  But he is at rest in a better place.  Always remember the good times and know that he will always be with you.   
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Post by: Tailgating is my game on April 27, 2019, 06:04:21 PM
Jason I am so sorry for you & your family. He is in a better place & will be at peace now with no suffering. God bless you & your family
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Post by: TentHunteR on April 27, 2019, 08:34:41 PM
Praying, still, for you and your family!
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Post by: teesquare on April 27, 2019, 09:10:25 PM
My sympathies  for you and the family RG. I hope you can find some rest and peace in the process that you now deal with.
T
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Post by: Big Dawg on April 28, 2019, 05:50:41 PM
I just lost my dad back in August, so I have a good idea of what you're feeling and going through.  My prayers for you and your family continue though this emotional and stressful period.  My dad and I were real close, and hardly a day that goes by that I don't see or hear something that we would've talked about.  I know that I won't get to have those conversations again.   But I also know that he's looking down.  One of my nieces just got married yesterday, and I know that he was there. 





BD

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Post by: IR2dum on April 28, 2019, 07:52:32 PM
Jason, so sorry for your loss. My sympathies for you and your family.
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Post by: RG on April 28, 2019, 08:32:46 PM
Thanks Y'all! I know I'm not the first to go through this. We've all had deaths of loved ones and one day we'll be the one that is missed. It's all part of life. I am trying to keep myself distracted enough to process what lies ahead. I have work to do, a house to clean out, handle his accounts all while dealing with 3 siblings (1 that doesn't care about any of it, one that doesn't care about anything but getting his paws on material things/money and then my angel of a sister whose help in all of this has been immeasurable. Once it all gets finalized, I'll have time to really reflect on it all and at that time, I can promise you, I'll be a total wreck.
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Post by: Pappymn on April 28, 2019, 09:49:53 PM
My dad died suddenly when I was 25. Which is now 25 years ago. It's never easy, but I miss what could have been but I trust God's plan


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Title: Re: Sad News
Post by: RG on May 08, 2019, 07:09:09 PM
I am just about done with my dad's affairs. Closing accounts, distributing death certifications, calling SSA and his Central States pension and stopping payments, calling and mailing all 3 credit bureaus, so forth and so on. It has been a mountain of stuff to go through. Today's task was to go into a Wells Fargo branch to secure his account from online access from someone other than myself (namely his ex-wife who I know has access). Her gravy train has left the station. I think SHE may be the most devastated by his death. She had been mooching off him for the last 5-6 years. I hate to sound so mean and angry but having her 4-runner repossessed made me a little happy and tingly inside, lol. She coerced him into buying that for her the middle of last year and he had been paying $667.00 a month on it AND paying the insurance!

I also had to undo a deal where he went THE VERY WEEK we discovered he needed in home hospice care and bought her a pull behind travel trailer/camper! I had the deal nullified and his $3000.00 deposit refunded. The check came in yesterday and now it's back in mine/his account. I find it shocking that people will leech off somebody, even when they know that the person is in bad shape. In this case, on his death bed. God sees it and will deal accordingly.

I have MUCH more I could tell but it would make Jerry Springer seem tame, lol.

I have to go back this weekend to get the remainder of his tools, provided the lock has not been broken off his outbuilding. I am sorry for airing this out on a public forum but my family network is way fractured and I appreciate you guys being the sounding board of sorts :)
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Post by: sparky on May 08, 2019, 11:10:13 PM
It's all good buddy.   I consider a lot of the ppl on this forum friends and family because we have known each other for along time.
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Post by: Tailgating is my game on May 09, 2019, 09:42:16 AM
I  know RG I am still dealing with my Aunts estate 16 months later. No help from my family except my wonderful wife.
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Post by: Big Dawg on May 12, 2019, 06:55:30 PM
Not to worry, Jason.  This is one of the most supportive places you can go.  Many of us have been through what you are going through right now, both the emotional loss and dealing with the survivors in their various forms and flavors.  I still miss my dad almost every single day, but it does get easier as time goes by.





BD