Yeah, I know that sounds crude, lol. Let me explain myself.
My Daughter is 20, almost 21 (end of the month). She has never had what I would call a true boyfriend, just innocent dating some school boys here and there and by dating I mean going to a movie once in a while, maybe out for a quick meal. She has always been rather picky so that explains a lot and even though she's only 5' tall on the dot, she can be a little intimidating. She's ULTRA smart, and that can sometimes be intimidating for a young man to try and match intellect and wit with. She also has always been laser focused on academics and school stuff and to be honest, it was one less thing for me to worry about.
Fast forward to her Junior year in college, she has met a boy (he's a man of 25 years old but I feel the need to call him a boy, lol) that she has fallen for. He is an odd ball but I try to be nice around him. Here's the deal, nobody will probably ever be good enough for my daughter so I know that's unfair but it is what it is. He's a nice guy, weird but nice. What I have issue with is that they are moving in together and renting a duplex for her and his final year at UGA. He got a late start on college as he pursued acting in NYC for a bit. They're both adults so I can't say too much, her decision. In the middle of small talk over lunch yesterday (I went and got Mexican take out), I somehow got on the topic of marriage. Not that I am rushing anything but I made the comment "Maybe one day in the future, you two might get married?"
My daughter gave me that "Why?" look, I grinned. Her BF quickly said "I don't believe in marriage" and kept stuffing his face with chimichangas that I bought. I asked what was his reason. He said "It's expensive". Now, I have to tell you, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard but I played along. I told him that LIFE is expensive and the only thing expensive about marriage is if you get divorced. He then asks me if I know why divorces are so expensive. The answer? "Because they're worth it" he says. Good lord, help me not to choke this fool out in front of my daughter.
What a schmuck! He's never been married, he has no idea. At this point I hope that he DOESN'T ever marry her and that she finds someone else
He's just in it for fun I guess, I hate to think of it that way but I was their age once and know what it's like. Being honest, although in my eyes she's naive and is being used by this ass hat. Her mistake to make, so says my wife.
He is SMUG as a the day is long, an entitled brat. I cooked some pretty dang good meals while he was down, let him drink my beer, bought a few meals for him. I never ONCE heard a thank you. This generation is screwed. My daughter was raised better, she is kind and polite and doesn't expect anything from anyone. This kid though, he comes from a broken home and is pompous as hell. I am happy for now as they left this morning, heading to his mom's house who recently relocated to SC. My wife is following them up and staying until Sunday so she can bring my daughter home. She's going to hit Myrtle beach while she's there but I've got my house to myself. No arrogant Millennial BS to put up with
I know I can't be the only parent here to have gone through this. Pointers are appreciated
